Living life with no Regrets. Chase your dreams so you can see... what it’s like to find a Passion that drives you... living Worry Free... with undying Faith
Human Science... the science of Faith, Feelings and Beliefs
We are sharing the incredible work of Tenzin Kiyosaki and her new book, The Three Regrets. While she does not promote herself as a Vulcan Dr. Spock Scientist or leading expert with doctorate credentials... her peaceful claim to fame is she is a former Buddhist nun and hospice chaplain... a soul doctor... credentials we translate to mean she is a compassionate combat physician who serves in the trenches treating mankind fighting death & dying grief... with respect and dignity. We consider her to be a pioneering TS4i human scientist of feelings who... just like Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross did in 1969 when she discovered the 5 Stages of Death/Dying Grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) by talking to terminally ill patients as if they were still intelligent loving human beings with unique feelings. Both of these brave soul doctors... jumped into the bowels of the deepest darkest depression to care for the dying... and then shared their discoveries with the hope it will help the living cope with life. So in the here-and-now.... those of us with life left in us... can know what to expect when our time on earth is coming to an end... sharing insight so all of us can live a wonderful life like there is no tomorrow... without fear of the unknown... without any regrets.
We consider the gift of the ACCEPTANCE escape hatch for death/dying grief... given to us by the honest-to-God patients of Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in 1969... and the three regrets... of not living the life of our dreams, not sharing all our love and not practicing forgiveness given to us by the honest-to-God patients of Tenzin Kiyosaki in 2021... as two of the greatest scientific breakthroughs for mankind in the science of living and dying. Insight into the art of being human... by demonstrating the beauty of what can be discovered when we treat those with a life ending death sentence with dignity and grace... how mankind can uncover what is important in life... when we practice the science of compassionate human science... focused on emotional feelings.
Take a Chance to Relearn... The ABC's of Happiness Regret, Remorse, Worry, Grief Countermeasures of Undying Faith
Regret is a recipe for griefs depression. The relationship between the two is... regret serves as the right hand man for grief. The hit man. If we fall victim to doing things we know we will regret... like sheer negligence... hurting ourselves or other people... it winds up digging us into a grief depression filled with remorse... once we are buried in grief... it takes away all chances... of taking more chances... so in the end... life comes up empty overflowing with regret. Even a greedy cold-blooded narcissist, who feels no empathy or sympathy, feels regret once they are exposed or caught red handed... then cast out of their kingdom and locked away forever in isolation... with remorse as their only cellmate.
If we learn to accept our lottery in life... chase the life of our dreams... help one another instead of hurt each other... share love with others instead of hate... live passionately like there is no tomorrow... forgive like we are giving it away for free... we have a shot at finding peace of mind... living happily ever after above ground... without regret... without remorse... without worry... without grief.
As practitioners of Pioneer Learning (learning to learn, unlearn & relearn) we discovered the art of wordsmithing. A wordsmith is someone who takes a time out to rediscover the meaning of a single word we use on a regular basis in a sentence... to unlearn the word and then relearn it... dissect the word to see what it feels like on the inside... to make sure it is the exact word... the right word... to express a intense human emotion. Take REGRET for example. It is a word with a lot of feelings attached to it. A word thrown around without regret or disregard. At first glance regret is unemotionally defined as: feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity). This is a matter of fact. Regret is getting stuck in the past tense. Regret is a feeling of “I missed the boat of opportunity that could have sailed me to paradise.”
If we dig deeper regret means... I focused solely on what was good for me and was only in it for myself... I made the conscience decision to go down the beaten path... wasted time taking the paved road of least resistance... but later in life I regretted... not jumping on opportunities... not taking chances... not taking the difficult path less taken... not doing the hard things. We take this to mean... I helped myself and nobody else... I took the path that everybody else was taking... the conveyor belt that someone else put me on... instead of blazing my own trail. This made us think of Cpl. Tony Stein, a Medal of Honor recipient who told his mother he joined the Marine Corps in World War II, "To do the hard things." He received the award for repeatedly making single-handed assaults against the enemy and for aiding wounded Marines during the initial assault on Iwo Jima on February 19, 1945. The esteemed Cpl. Stein did not regret his decision to fight for freedom saving countless lives of his fellow Marines and singlehandedly helping to win the battle and ultimately win the war... in fact... he was so committed to doing the hard things he died trying a few weeks later. So as a wordsmith we reference Cpl. Steins uncommon valor... which was a common virtue of all those he fought with... to the point we can translate regret to mean... the exact opposite of valor... "To do the easy things" or "to do absolutely nothing."
And least we forget Regrets demented sibling... Regretful Remorse... which is “a deep regret for a wrong commuted’. Remorse is a deep-dark feeling of regret that sticks with us forever... when we hurt other people. Those who dedicate their lives to helping other people... experience the blessing of living a life with no remorse... no regrets.
And get this. We asked our wicked smart education sensei... the free doctor of “the more you know”... Google... "What is the opposite of regret?" Low and behold the action noun that came back to us... Happiness. This pretty much proves the entire point we are making with this website. Happiness is chasing impossible dreams... living life without regret... doing the hard things... helping people... getting off the beaten path... jumping off the conveyor belt... taking the path less taken... taking the path never taken... blazing a trail of your own making... chasing all the passions you can imagine... running down your one and only dream... fulfilling all your impossible dreams.
The ancient story goes... The one question the Greeks ask at a funeral is..."Did this person have PASSION?"
If we are going to dig into life's regrets... we have to figure out the critical role passion plays in the ultimate key to life. According to the Greeks, living a passionate life is the only thing that matters in the end. So let's wordsmith passion to see what is under the emotional hood so we have no regrets. If we stick to the unemotional basic definition of PASSION... it is... "a strong and barely controllable emotion... intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or conviction...an intense love". Obviously, we are being somewhat selective in our wordsmithing... leaving out passionate references to sex & suffering... focusing on the primary sensations of Passion... that drive to question... why the Greeks felt this was the ultimate question.
So let's break it down to hear the pulsating sounds of passion. Passion is put together by a strong, barely controllable, intense, driving, overmastering emotional feeling of Love and Conviction. Where love is a warm & cozy feeling of undying affection...passion kicks feelings of love into overdrive... sets them on fire... bursting feelings of love into a burning inferno. Passion is a dreamy super-hot feeling that burns with intense desire. We translate this to mean...those courageous terminally ill patients interviewed by Tenzin Kiyosaki who regretted "not living the life of their dreams"...could have easily been trying to say... they did not live a life filled with passion especially when we combine it with the second regret of “not sharing their love”.
So, with that said, here is the ABC's of Happiness emotional definition of Passion... our measurement of what it has to offer. Passion... a strong, barely controllable, intense, driving, overmastering emotional feeling of love and conviction kicked into high gear by an adrenalin rush. An adrenalin rush is defined as "a sudden increase in energy or vivacity resulting from a moment of danger or intense activity." We all know adrenalin is our fight or flight internal mechanism triggered by heightened feelings of pleasure & fright. Meaning an adrenalin rush pushes the body & mind beyond the limits of fear and gets the heart racing like a power piston. However, where an adrenalin rush is a sudden spike of intense emotions... passion is an adrenalin rush that lasts...and lasts...and lasts...a lifetime.
Look at it like this. Being in love is measured on the happiness Richter scale. The higher the magnitude of love we feel... the higher our happiness skyrockets. When we fall head-over-heels in love we experience tremors of happiness that knock down all the barriers we build up to protect our feelings and it unleashes an earthquake of unbelievable emotions. Love is an off-the-charts feeling of affection... we give it a nine on the I-feel-good emotional Richter scale. Love is a seismic activity of intimacy that rock us to our core. We picked the number 9 (on a happiness scale of 1-10)... simply because of we are always on the look out for Love Potion #9. When we fall in love we feel like we’re on Cloud 9. Love transports you into a real life Fairy Tale...where you literally are living "Happily ever after" in a dream world. By the way...love shakes us up to a 10 on the happiness Richter scale when you feel passion start to burn. Elvis said it best what it feels like to be head-over-heels in love...”I’m all shook up”.
While being in love is measured on a shake-shake-shake emotional earthquake Richter Scale...a driving passion is best measured in miles per hour...because when you find a passion... you feel the need for speed. Now let's speed past passion for a minute and jump ahead to an adrenalin rush. An adrenalin rush is like driving a car at 170 MPH... simply because it is a I-Feel-Invincible feeling. The faster you go...the faster your heart races. An adrenalin rush is literally a high-octane mixture of unimaginable happiness and sheer terror. Think of bungee jumping off a rusty tower in Thailand over an empty swimming pool or the first time landing a single engine airplane in a thunderstorm with 20-30 knot crosswinds in El Paso, Texas... and you get the feeling of what a pure adrenalin rush feels like... unimaginable happiness mixed with sheer terror.
This brings us to a “driving passion” that slows an adrenalin rush down to racing at a steady, everyday speed of 85 MPH... knowing that if you get pulled over for speeding... you face getting a reckless driving charge for going 15 miles over the speed limit and might end up in jail. You know you should be slowing it down to the recommended speed limit so you never get a ticket... you know the best bet is to play it safe and slow it down... but you can't. Your passion pushes you past the speed limit and your heart is racing a mile a minute. You're fully focused on the road ahead and on the constant look out for danger...but the song on the radio has you rockin & rollin so much you throw caution to the wind... and just don't care... because you are carefree. Your passion makes it so you can never slow down.
That's passion. Passion is an under control adrenalin rush... where you keep the pedal to the middle... cutting your speed in half from driving 170MPH down to an under control 85. Your heart races a little (without the sheer terror) and it makes you feel in complete control while driving full speed ahead. Driving at 85MPH everyday becomes the only speed you know how to go...fast & furious... on a constant lookout for danger. Passion is a cruising speed that takes you wherever you want to go... at full speed... and the power of a driving passion feels amazing. Considering you at driving along at 85MPH you are really cruising at half speed... knowing if you need the extra power of an adrenalin rush... all you have to do is put the pedal to the metal and you are ready to go 170MPH to drive you away from danger or kick it into high gear and cross the finish line in first place. We think this is why Americans who are driven by passion might ask this question at a funeral. "Did this person just pedal along in the bike lane their entire life... or did they stay in the fast lane... punch it into overdrive... and live their life cruisin’ for a bruisin’ like a high speed racer?
Now that we know the earthquakes of love... this theory of off-charts feelings of the highest feel good magnitude... there is a good chance you think this high speed philosophy is coming from an adrenalin junkie. Not true. An adrenalin rush is a one and done experience. That desirable half of unimaginable pleasure is erased by the 50% pure terror. A temporary adrenalin rush is super cool and available if you need to fight or flight.. but one can only push their luck so far. What we are saying is do not confuse an adrenalin junkie (with a death wish)... to a level headed individual with a driving passion. Think of passion as a adrenalin rush without the 50% terror. Passion makes us fearless without the crazy. Driving at 85 MPH is only reckless if you let the car spin out of control... or refuse to slow down in a driving rain... or slow it down to match the pace on a crowded highway or byway until the coast is clear. The risks of pursuing a passion are worth the rewards. To make matters worse... people with undying faith (complete confidence in trust in a higher power) have the highest potential to feel a passion burn to their undying soul... and live life daily on an 85MPH happiness scale. (Check out the section on faith at the end of this webpage... to see the part faith plays in a life filled with passion)
Many of us can safely say, "I unconditionally love my faith, I unconditionally love my family, I unconditionally love my country, I unconditionally love my wife, I unconditionally love my life"...this unconditional love translates to all the things that bring affection & comfort... love that makes life peaceful & content. We will never regret not sharing our unconditional love... even after we get burned. However...all of us dream of kicking our love into high gear... punching our love into overdrive... and we do so when we chase an impossible dream with a driving passion.
Imagine being married to someone you not only unconditionally love...but every time you see them.. they give you an passionate adrenalin rush that lasts all day long. It becomes a marriage founded in love but driven by passion. Imagine doing something you love with such a passion...it gives you an adrenalin rush all day long. It becomes an activity driven by passion. If you feel unloved and long for unconditional love... get a dog. If you want to feel a passion burn deep inside your soul... find a person or activity that gives you... "a strong, barely controllable, intense, driving, overmastering emotional feeling of love and conviction that gives you a long lasting burst of energy or vivacity resulting from a extended period of intense activity". This is when you live life with a passion... passion is a fast paced love that lasts a lifetime. This way... on the day of your funeral...it can safely be said..."This person lived a life filled with joy... shaken (not stirred) with love... driven by passion... and this crazy happy-go-lucky adrenaline junkie did it without any regrets."
Just so you know. We are very passionate about what we are doing with the ABC’s of Happiness. It gives us a daily dose of a loving adrenaline rush.
Don't let your Worries... Give you the Blues
Put some life in your Days... living life Worry Free
“Mindfulness is the opposite of worry”. We take this to mean WORRY is a mindless exercise in negative thinking. Worry is a word that literally fills your head with dread... to the tipping point there is no room to think of anything else. Our happiness makes us mindful and let's us do that thing we do… which leads us to look under the hood and see what is wrong with the happiness engine... when it breaks down with worry... and what we need to do to fix it. Worry is unkind and mean… it unemotionally means… giving way to anxiety or unease; allows one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles. Worry is a diabolical dweller that locks you into a grief cellar. Worry is a happiness inhibitor… a carefree blocker… that stalls a happiness engine. Worry is a hurtful cancer that spreads like a wildfire destroying happiness cells... burning them out. Worry is the gateway drug that leads to a grief addiction. Worry is the happiness assassin that throws us into a grief depression. When regret is the right hand man of grief... worrying is all that is left.
The worry sing-a-song-of-ten-pence includes lyrics of grief, anxiety, anguish, fear, nervousness, uncertainty, pain, stress, torment, torture. Worry carries an ugly tune in your head where we fret about “What comes next?” Someone or something we love has drastically been shattered… we experience overwhelming senses that tell us there is trouble ahead… so the voice of uncertainty gets stuck in our head… worrying about something that hasn’t even happened yet.
When we troubleshoot a worried pain in the brain to find the broken component that makes us unhappy… we discover the part that needs to be replaced is… FEAR of the UNKNOWN. If we replace the broken heart of worry... the broken part of fear of the unknown... with undying faith (complete trust and confidence… accepting what will be…will be) … the happiness engine starts right up and drives away all our worries. Stop worrying… start realizing… faith is the answer to all your prayers… and learn to love venturing into the unknown… unafraid… knowing when you walk with faith... you never walk alone.
To those who dig deep into finding their Christian faith... you get to uncover a fun fact. Worry is considered a SIN. Say what? You know the drill of the original sins of the Ten Commandments... and the thou's... of thou shall not. To those who dig deeper into their faith... you figure out if you crank the volume up to 11... the unwritten 11th commandment is thou shall not WORRY if you have undying faith. Those who truly trust in their faith in God... Corps... Country... with undying faith... do not have a worry in the world.
What we are saying… without trying to hurt anyone’s feelings or challenge their faith… if you are worried about anything… worried at all… you are a scaredy cat who fears the unknown. Try not to feel bad or sad. Being called a scaredy cat… by a Happiness Mad Hatter who isn’t the least bit mad or scared of the dark… ain’t nothing to worry about. So stop worrying... come out of hiding... leave your safe & secure hideout, classroom or office bunker... and start embracing venturing into the vast unknown... going where no one has gone before. Take a chance in the sunlight of your dreams. We promise… you will be much happier if you do.
P.S. To all those highly educated "the more you know" Vulcan students, managers, scientists and politicians that turn their backs to Faith and focus on the Facts... professional sideline critics who are hide-in-a-bunker scaredy cats too afraid to take any chances… forever passing judgement on everyone but themselves... failing to take any risks. Your self-promoting fear is contagious so please cease & desist and come out of the shadows of your worries. We know... "the more you hunker down in the known"... the "less likely you're able to venture into the unknown".
There is a reason we feel-the-need-for-speed when we wordsmith American LEADERSHIP... as fearless freedom fighters... who lead from the front... willing to take the first bullet that comes down range... true red-white-blue leadership that inspires renegades to follow them into the vast unknown... assembling a merry band of pioneering brothers & sister who join forces and live “To do the hard things”... without a worry in the world. We wordsmith learning as the link to leadership via “Action Agents”... “the more you do” pioneers. We wordsmith Leadership because we want "the more you know" sideline management bunker babies to come out of the shadows and Cowboy Up.
“We have nothing to fear but fear itself.”
Just saying… when it comes to frightened education systems, management systems, science systems, business systems, reporting systems, political systems driven by sideline critics... scared of their own shadow... passing judgement on anybody who comes out of their shadows... canceling our pioneering "do the hard things" culture... we ain't playing.
The Power of Faith
As we summarize a life without regret, a non-guilty verdict for remorse, the earthquake of love that shakes us to our core, the driving thrill of chasing a passion, a daily dose of living without worry and accepting our grief with the gift of forgiveness... we wordsmith the most peaceful word in the world that tackles all feelings of regret, remorse, worry, grief with acceptance, forgiveness, reckoning, repentance and compassion. That singular word is Faith. Not the faith defined as a straight forward noun said without emotion... "complete trust or confidence in someone or something or a strong belief in God"... but instead as "an overwhelming feeling of fearless empowerment". Dr. Martin Luther King said it best. Faith is "taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase." A leap of faith is a leap into the unknown. Faith is a singular word that eliminates fear of the unknown. To those who spend too much time trapped in grief dealing with the unacceptable and unforgiveable... looking for a scientific way out... living in fear of the unknown... rundown by regret... wrangled by worry... buried in grief... faith is a feeling guaranteed to set you free... a soothing feeling of peace & tranquility... an fearless feeling felt by those who never walk afraid... because they never walk alone. As a wordsmith... we give you the power & strength you can hold onto in the Psalm of your hand... with the following action verb definition of faith that explodes with fearless feelings that guide you out of our darkest hours.
“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.”
Faith is a word worth learning, unlearning and relearning. Faith allows us to carry thy rod & thy staff to defend against evil... serving a higher power for the greater good... helping the little, the last, the least and the lost... doing the hard things... with the ability to chase and capture impossible dreams without any fear of the unknown. Chasing a passion without regret, remorse, worry or grief getting in the way. Living Fearlessly.
Imagine this. Faith is the light that guides you through the darkness. Faith means you are never walk alone. Faith means you never walk afraid. You fearlessly follow the light and it guides you to places you can never imagine. There is a lot to be said for... "I can only imagine". There is a lot to be said for..."I truly believe". There is an undying science to having faith... that science itself will never be able to prove... or even begin to comprehend.
The power of undying faith... overpowers feelings of regret, remorse, worry and grief... and scares these four evil horsemen of the apocalypse to death and chases them away. Grief empowers these four bullies... transforms them into our worst nightmares... who only prey on easy targets... who can only slay those who lack trust & confidence in their faith. These grief cowards turn tail when they encounter those willing to do the hard things... who stand their ground against evil spirits with undying faith.
Faith. One powerful word. One powerful emotion. One powerful sensation. One powerful belief. One powerful feeling that generates a fearless heart & soul. Faith is a come-to-Jesus moment of clarity. Try it...you'll like it.
And remember this...There are "no atheist's in a foxhole."